Most big weddings are more about one family showing the other family they have large sums of money.
Most big weddings are more about one family showing the other family they have large sums of money.
Damn Straight.Originally Posted by Yamaneko
Meh, I just don't see marriage as something special, more like a formality.
My point was: If people would actually change their minds about marraige depending on something as, ultimately, trivial as the way they were proposed to, then they clearly don't love the respective person.How so?It's a huge commitment, a huge step in your lives, so there should be some thought put into it. I know everyone could (and should, imo) do better that "Yo, let's get married."
If you knew your significant other well enough to love her, you should know what kind of proposal she would like. To completely disregard her desires and expectations doesn't seem very loving to me. That shows a complete lack of connection between the two people and they probably shouldn't get married anyway.
Whether the girl wants a big romantic proposal or a quiet proposal with no hoopla or anything, the guy should know all this already. He should already know what she would like and what she would hate. If he knows that she would enjoy being asked over a quiet dinner or if she would love to be proposed to on the beach, or whatever, why the heck would he not do this for her?
And this applies to guys who plan out elaborate proposals in front of a crowd when their girl is actually really shy and hates to be the center of attention. That's just stupid. C'mon know your audience. This is the person you claim to love enough to make a life-long commitment with, and if you don't know how to propose in a way that would make her happy, then you shouldn't be proposing in the first place.
If my guy proposed to me and got me a pearl engagement ring, I would probably be incredibly sad. Not because the ring matters at all, but because that would mean that he didn't know me well enough to know that I rather loathe pearls and always have for most of my life. It's a small thing, and I probably wouldn't refuse the proposal, but I'd question whether we know each other well enough to get married to each other.
So it may seem trivial, but it really does speak a bit more about your relationship than you would think.
You guys think about such things so rationally and logically that it's depressing, sometimes, you know that? "But you don't need to do it." It's not about the need. You don't need to talk to your wife either, but it would probably help. Yeesh. I'm totally not proposing to Unne anymore.
Bow before the mighty Javoo!
Nice one xD
Now *this* is a man
(roflgigglelol)
(but srsly)
Yeah.... I think I love you, Bawb...And I'd totally hit you too Miriel!
(but not in the abusing kind of way! Not into that kinda stuff!)
Lmao that's bril. I'd love that xDNice one xD
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Winner.
On an unrelated note, every time I read this thread's title, it's to the sound of "Let's Get Rocked" by Def Leppard. <i>Let's get, let's get, let's get, let's get hitched~</i>
Bow before the mighty Javoo!
Nah, I do. As a wise man once said, it's just not my bag.
Supposing that my partner doesn't want me to grovel-propose, and I don't want to grovel-propose, what is the problem? I don't see how it's depressing that other people may like different things than you like. Other people proposing in traditional or outlandish ways doesn't make me depressed.
Stalin and Bren win and therefore should marry each other because people are staring at me for laughing so much.
Mr Most Likely To Marry Someone He Met On The Internet and Mrs Wedding Photographer are pansies. PANSIES!
I regret having ever taught you that phrase.And I'd totally hit you too Miriel!
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