Would you consider it cheating if...?

[eemica]

Well, I went to see Pirates 2 on opening night. I went with my friends and my friends mom. Anyways, one of my guy friends came, and I use to like him a lot during the school year. But nothing happened with us. And now he is dating this girl. So during the movie he start to play with my hand a little, then slowly he started to hold it. I would pull away..and he would grab it again..so, I let him hold it. Then I had to ask him a question during the movie, so I leaned over and asked him, he answered it for me, then I looked at him and he leaned closer and to me it looked like he was about to kiss me. But I turned away..because he has a girlfriend. And I don't want him cheating on her because she is an old friend of mine...and I don't want to see her hurt. So after the movie he was all "Please don't tell..."


Would you consider what he did cheating?
Holding my hand..almost kissing me..then telling me not to tell..

[Miriel]

It's not the worst kind of cheating the guy could have done, but I'd still consider it cheating.

[eemica]

It's not the worst kind of cheating the guy could have done, but I'd still consider it cheating.

I agree. Like, its not like we kissed or something more happened. But, he was all the way honest with his girlfriend..

[Kawaii Ryûkishi]

Don't worry about whether or not to label it "cheating." It was a very jerky thing to do either way.

[Flea]

Yeah, I agree. Don't worry too much about whether it's cheating or not, just don't go along with that sort of behaviour.
Did you or he end up telling the girlfriend?

[nik0tine]

12 year olds cheat?

[Rye]

It's not the worst kind of cheating the guy could have done, but I'd still consider it cheating.

Pretty much, yeah. I would be hurt by what he did if I were in your friend's shoes.

[drunkymonkey]

Yeah, leaving the cheating part aside, it was very nasty to do. I can't recommend whether to tell your friend or not because I don't know her so I don't know how she would react. It's your choice really. But think of it this way: If he tried it on with you, what's to stop him trying it on with someone else? I suppose you could stop it all right now...

I just noticed that this bit "If he tried it on with you, what's to stop him trying it on with someone else?" sounded like I was slagging you off. I wasn't.

[Sefie1999AD]

It's not the worst kind of cheating the guy could have done, but I'd still consider it cheating.

Agreed. I wouldn't like it if my girlfriend (if I had one) was holding someone else's hands or trying to kiss that person. Do you consider that guy honest and reliable? It would be better if he told his girlfriend the truth himself so that you wouldn't have to get involved because of that guy's mistakes. However, if he's not going to tell her, I'm not sure whether you should do it or not since I don't know how she'd react if you told her.

[Loony BoB]

Technically I'd say no. However.

One way to look at it: If he's ashamed of what he's done and doesn't want the girlfriend to know, then he's obviously broken the rules of his relationship, no matter what you call it. If it was okay, he'd not care if she found out. So yeah, I'd tell him to tell the girl, stating that if he doesn't, you will. Treat others as you'd like to be treated, you know. I'm pretty sure the girl deserves to know of this stuff so she doesn't waste her time with him, and then (optimistically) he might learn a lesson, too.

I once held the hand of a girl and got quite touchy with her, tracing fingers over her face while sleeping next to her one night on a school trip. I told my girlfriend afterwards because I felt horrible. We stuck together for months beyond that. I think it's better that the girl finds out from him, because that's the only way he'll really have a good chance out of all of this.

[xX.Silver.Wings.Xx]

I hold hands with my friend sometimes and were not involved in anyway other than friendship. Just tell him you don't think it should happen again if you are concerned.

[eemica]

I agree with everyone.

And he didn't tell his girl yet...and I don't think he plans on it. I hate to say this, but, in all his past relationships--he's cheated. He tries to tell me, "its okay...its not like anyone will find out'' but they do end up finding out. And with his girlfriend now, she already hates for me to hang out with him because during the school year she said I was trying to "steal him away from her" because we went to a party and played 'sexual twister' as it was called. So, she already doesn't like me that much..and that was a start of a very ugly fight we got into.

[NeoCracker]

Technically I'd say no. However.

One way to look at it: If he's ashamed of what he's done and doesn't want the girlfriend to know, then he's obviously broken the rules of his relationship, no matter what you call it. If it was okay, he'd not care if she found out. So yeah, I'd tell him to tell the girl, stating that if he doesn't, you will. Treat others as you'd like to be treated, you know. I'm pretty sure the girl deserves to know of this stuff so she doesn't waste her time with him, and then (optimistically) he might learn a lesson, too.

I once held the hand of a girl and got quite touchy with her, tracing fingers over her face while sleeping next to her one night on a school trip. I told my girlfriend afterwards because I felt horrible. We stuck together for months beyond that. I think it's better that the girl finds out from him, because that's the only way he'll really have a good chance out of all of this.

I'd give you a cookie for that, but I hate you, so no cookie.

Listen to this guy, he seems intelegent.

[Alive-Cat]

Well, it's not cheating. Not straight up cheating, anyway. And seeing as he just wanted to hold your hand and not anything more, maybe he likes you A LOT.

[Psydekick]

That is a bit pervey rly, and yes that is cheating.

Is he ladies man like irvine who just loves girls?