Sexual Partners

[The Devil Man]

Hi all. 1st things 1st. Thanks to everyone that PM'd me yesterday and today but this really IS the last Poll I am going to create and the last Post I am gonna make. I ain't gonna change my mind about that now. Sorry This is for you and now I stop.

This might be a little controversial for some so I hope no one gets easily offended. The basic question is this:

If you met someone who had a LOT of sexual partners, would you NOT date them/stop seeing them?

3 days ago I met a girl I haven't seen for a year. I went to school with her and her name is Louisa. She is as gorgeous now as she was back then. When she was at school, though, she had one of the worst reputations for sleeping around that people in about 15, 16 different schools knew who she was (I live in London and there are a lot of schools per town). I once asked her when I was AT school how many partners she had and she told me it was well over a 100. Naturally, most guys thought she was a slut and so did I. And most things that a girl can do sexually, she has done.

I left school to go to a different college and didn't see her again until a couple of years ago when I met her in a shop. I got talking and we'd both grown up and I somehow liked her alot more. We hung out for a couple of days and just talked... and it was then I realised why she let any guy sleep with her. I wont get into it here other then to say that her childhood was messed up. Seriously messed up and very sad. And I could understand her better as a result.

I didn't see her again until a year later. Last year in fact. Again, we got talking and just being with her was nice. I enjoyed her company. However she wanted something more from me and wanted to be my girlfriend.

Now this is the truth. This is what I thought last year: I WOULD have gladly had a relationship with her IF it wasn't for her sexual history. The only thing that held me back was that she had been with so many guys, and about 30 of them I actually knew personally. So nothing happened at all.

I told her I was sorry and we didn't see each other again until 4 days ago. We met on the train and I was really surprised and happy to see her again and we got talking. She was engaged and her life was much better then it was before. I'm happy for her but I was thinking to myself today...

I was thinking how differently things could have been with her because now my thoughts are all 180. Now I couldn't care less how many guys a girl has been with and it just doesn't bother me at all. And maybe last year it didn't bother me either but it was many of my friends saying 'I shouldn't date a whore like that'. I wish I hadn't listened (especially since I barely see those guys anymore) and in all honesty... I am sure Louisa's sexual history didn't bother me last year either. It was more people telling me not to date her that prevented me. I regret it because she is a genuinely nice person with a kind heart.

So the point of this Thread is: Does a girl/guys sexual history bother you? Would it effect your relationship if you knew how many people they'd been with? And do the opinions of your friends and family matter to you when seeing a girl/guy?

And is sexual history more important then personality? I believe people can change and they make mistakes when they are young. Nobody should be judged on mistakes they make when they are younger.

I just know that now... I don't care at all. 1 or a 100, it doesn't matter to me.

[bipper]

If you are your own sexual partner, does that count

But yes; there is a certian whoreage I cannot except, simply because I would think they would easily cheat or be a complete nymph, and I hate competition.

[escobert]

Yes it would and has, I generally don't have sex with girls my freinds have.

[Sunny Day Suicide]

It wouldn't bother me unless she was a slut. You wouldn't want to kiss a slut. You don't know where that mouth's been. Being serious.

[chrisfffan]

yea that would be sloppey secounds haha

[edczxcvbnm]

It matters because it shows that they are either a nymph or have that low of self-esteem/will of their own to do it that much.

[Miriel]

30+ people? I'd be all, "daaaang, wtf you man whore?!" And it would bother me a lot cause I don't want to be with a man whore and I'd always be afraid that one day, while we were still together, he'd go off and be all man whorish and break my heart.

[daggertrepe]

Ew no. I would want him to be my sexual partner only. And I guess I don't care if he's had sex before two or three times, just as long as he doesn't have like an STD or AIDS or something.

[Azure Chrysanthemum]

There's a point that I don't particularily mind. And then there's excessive. 30 seems excessive. Basically, it all depends on the history involved.

[The Devil Man]

30+ people? I'd be all, "daaaang, wtf you man whore?!" And it would bother me a lot cause I don't want to be with a man whore and I'd always be afraid that one day, while we were still together, he'd go off and be all man whorish and break my heart.

She just had a really bad childhood.

I mean, really, REALLY bad and she had a hard life. Her Dad was a complete scumbag and I pretty much understand why she went the way she did. Girls, and guys, can end up looking for affection in the wrong places and people can exploit that.

Thats why I am not so quick to judge anymore. Sex is one thing. But the make-up of the persons mind, and what they have been through, is another entirely.

Edit: She hasn't slept with 30+ people. It's more like 100+ Those thirty are the ones I know about and have spoken to at some point when I was younger.

I just also believe that mistakes people make when they are younger should NOT be held against them when they are older. It's not right to do that, in my opinion. When we are young we can be easily led and are "impressionable". We should not be judged on mistakes that we make then. Which is why I just think stuff like (young) sexual history should be over-looked in favour of personality and AS LONG AS the person has grown up and become more mature because of their experiences, like Louisa has.

[McLovin']

Is she hot?

If she is, bang her.

[Roto13]

Their personality would conflict with my own.

[bipper]

Initially, it may not bother me, but as time went on, particularily if or when I began having sexual intercourse with her, I would become agitated.

They make creams for that one, buddy.

[Jebus]

Sexual history means nothing. Unless she has some sort of disease.

The past doesn't matter that much. What matters is what happens now.

[Nominus Experse]

Initially, it may not bother me, but as time went on, particularily if or when I began having sexual intercourse with her, I would become agitated.

They make creams for that one, buddy.

Very clever bipper...