Sexual Partners

[Miriel]

This reminds me of Chasing Amy where the girl participated in some pretty freaky sexual activities and was a lesbian for awhile and then she met Ben Affleck's character and they fell in love and she ditched that whole lifestyle and lesbianism for him but he found out about the whole threesome sex thing and he was all "wtf!?" and she was all "dude it's in the past" and he should have just accepted her cause she was past all that and she loved him but he was a stupid jerk head and instead of just letting it go and being with her he suggested that THEY have a threesome with his bestfriend who might be gay and she was all "wtf?! Go scew yourself! *slap*" and then they lost each other all because he wasn't able to get over her past.

So I guess it really does depend on the person and their attitude and if all that stuff is behind them. But anyone who says that a person's sexual history is a non-issue is being niave, cause I mean, c'mon. It always matters. Sometimes it matters a tiny bit and sometimes it mattes a lot, but it still matters.

[eestlinc]

it matters to me but it's not a deal breaker.

[Meat Puppet]

Diseases would be my only worry here.

[Yamaneko]

Didn't Wilt Chamberlain sleep with 20,000 women?

[eestlinc]

that is the story, but if you slept with one person per day every day it would take you almost 55 years to sleep with 20,000 people.

[Araciel]

This reminds me of Chasing Amy where the girl participated in some pretty freaky sexual activities and was a lesbian for awhile and then she met Ben Affleck's character and they fell in love and she ditched that whole lifestyle and lesbianism for him but he found out about the whole threesome sex thing and he was all "wtf!?" and she was all "dude it's in the past" and he should have just accepted her cause she was past all that and she loved him but he was a stupid jerk head and instead of just letting it go and being with her he suggested that THEY have a threesome with his bestfriend who might be gay and she was all "wtf?! Go scew yourself! *slap*" and then they lost each other all because he wasn't able to get over her past.

So I guess it really does depend on the person and their attitude and if all that stuff is behind them. But anyone who says that a person's sexual history is a non-issue is being niave, cause I mean, c'mon. It always matters. Sometimes it matters a tiny bit and sometimes it mattes a lot, but it still matters.

yah i was going to quote chasing amy till i read you already ruined it for meh....ah well

i don't know that it would matter that much to me. aside from the fact that what's in the past is the past, aside from lasting consequences like children or long-term stds, or a bad reputation/past lovers who are numerous and make a point to remind us of those relationships.

as you grow older, time passes and you realise how many failed relationships people can have had, depending on how long they have been sexually active, not to mention one-night stands, FRIENDLY friends, etc.

i'm at the age of 24 now and it's expected of me to have been sexually active since at least 18. this is 6 years almost 7, in which time i may have had carnal relations with numerous partners, not to say that these many relationships couldn't be meaningful in their own way besides.

if the person is worthwhile and you respect them for who they are and not what (or who) they've done in the past, then it's no big deal

that is the story, but if you slept with one person per day every day it would take you almost 55 years to sleep with 20,000 people.

what about multiple girls in one day

[Jojee]

Yeah, you didn't count orgies. ^_^

[fantasyjunkie]

Would not bother me at all. I had sex with a LOT of girls before I got married. That was 16 years ago and I don't cheat on her.

[Araciel]

Would not bother me at all. I had sex with a LOT of girls before I got married. That was 16 years ago and I don't cheat on her.

heh yeah i think i mentioned the age thing...i don't know but i'm pretty sure the average age around here is below 20

[abrojtm]

They would need to be tested first--STDs are a serious problem these days.

[ValkyrieWing]

Hmmmm...

Both of the guys I've dated were virgins. So am I, so I guess...i don't know.

[My_car_is_faster_than_you]

(I can't believe I'm still awake.)

Anyway, for me, (I may be really weird) but sexuality is just to have kids, and that's it. Absolutely no sex before marriage. I've seen way too many families break up that were premarital relationship marriages.

It may sound "harsh" but for me, it's a total dealbreaker. No virgin, no wifey. That's cause I'd expect to marry someone with the same standards as me. If they can't keep themselves clean in that respect, then why should I lower my standards?

[ValkyrieWing]

It is a proven medical fact that, on occasions where a girl plays an active sport, such as soccer or basketball, where they use their legs a lot, that their hymen can be ruptured, or destroyed entirely. That's happend to me, because of 4 years of marching band. So, while I am not 'physically' a virgin, I *have not* been with someone.

What about then?

[Araciel]

i think he means that if you're not a virgin by intercourse...we all can accept that accidents and stress can do things like that. it sounds like he means being true to one person

admirable

[My_car_is_faster_than_you]

(Still can't believe I'm awake)

Above, is what I meant. I don't care if they are physically a virgin, just a moral virgin if that makes sense.