Infidelity.

[The Devil Man]

If a girl or a guy cheated on you would you forgive them and continue with the relationship?

I don't know how many people here have ever been in that situation (and if it's a very personal question then I apologise and hope you do not get offended by anything that is written). I was just wondering because of some newspaper articles I read this morning about divorce rates being on the rise in the UK and how infidelity is cited as the main factor.

I was just wondering what people here would do if it happened to them. Would you be able to forgive them or not? It's not such a black and white issue in my opinion. If I'd been with someone for just a couple of weeks or months and they cheated on me, then, yeah, I would perhaps break up with them. It could be a sign of bad times ahead.

But if I was with the person for a long time, like many months or years, then I think I would forgive them and try and repair the relationship. If it was partly my fault for the person cheating on me (ie, if I was neglecting her in some way) or if it was a one-off mistake, like a one-night stand, and my girlfriend/wife deeply regretted what had happened, then I would forgive them and try and continue and improve the relationship. I wouldn't want to waste all the good months and years I'd spent with someone because of a bad period in a relationship. I think it's too easy to give up on relationships these days because of mistakes and it's better to try and improve something that was once special.

What are peoples opinions on this?

*By the way, i know i said i didn't wanna continue making Polls and Threads... but because a few people PM'd me and sent usernotes i realised this place has some seriously sweet people! Especially 'the monkey' You're special! So i'll carry on*

[Rye]

I honestly don't know. The stronger part of me would probably want to break it off, because I think cheating is one of the most horrible things you can do to a person and it kills the trust, but the weaker part of me would want to forgive them to try to make things like they were before.. It depends on what it was, really.

[Polaris]

I'd forgive everything if I really love the guy, if not I wouldn't and I would revenge!

[Ryth]

I think I'd keep the relationship going if she told me and asked for forgiveness, I think that shows she's sorry. That'd be her last chance though, and if I figured it out from someone else, we'd break up. I guess how long she'd been doing it would matter too, but honestly I don't think I really know when it comes to this situation. It's not something I like to think about.

[Anaisa]

I would die of sadness. But before that, I would brutally torture them. By the time I'd finished, they wouldn't be capable of getting woman, man, nor beast, to have relations with them. So no, I wouldn't forgive them.

[Rainecloud]

Absolutely not.

If my girlfriend cheated on me, there's no way I'd be able to continue the relationship, as I couldn't cope with living the rest of my life in fear of her doing it again. Trust is an integral part of a relationship, and if an affair takes place, trust is lost forever.

[bipper]

been there done that.

[Jimmy Dark Aeons Slayer]

No sane woman would turn me over some second rate playboy!

[Bunny]

There is absolutely no room for infidelity in a relationship. If my girlfriend cheated on me, even if it was one time, I would not stay with her. Regardless of how much I love the other person, the trust that I need to have in a person to actually pursue a relationship with them would be shattered and there would be no chance of it ever being regained. There is, and never will be, any reason to cheat on someone you are with.

If the scenario was that she was drinking too much and "accidently" slept with another guy, it would make no difference to me. While it may sound harsh, she put herself in the position for such a thing to happen and I would not be forgiven regardless.

[fire_of_avalon]

I honestly don't know. The stronger part of me would probably want to break it off, because I think cheating is one of the most horrible things you can do to a person and it kills the trust, but the weaker part of me would want to forgive them to try to make things like they were before.. It depends on what it was, really.

Yep. But I normally listen to the stronger part and kick ass.

[Resha]

No. No way. Hell no Infidelity makes me mad. Anna Karenina makes me mad.

[Meat Puppet]

If a girl wanted to bang another guy, that's fine. I just wish she would tell me, so I could let her go. That way we might just be able to stay buddies.

Cheating makes me sick. The secrecy, lies and other putrid behaviour related to cheating. I wouldn't forgive someone who cheated on me. They must take me for a fool. And I probably would be fooled for a while, too. But I would be fooling myself. I would know what was going on. No doubt I would try to hide from it; try to convince myself that I am being paranoid, and everything that seems off is just coincidence. It would eventually swell, however, into a giant ball of pus not even I could ignore; confrontation on the matter inevitable.

I wouldn't be violent. Being cheated on would make me feel low enough—I wouldn't need looking like some ruthless redneck on The Jerry Springer Show to make me worse. No, I would spring it out on her one day; hurl it from my gut as if the whole ordeal was a poison I had swallowed. It would be a question. No way do I have enough faith in my instincts to outright accuse her of something. Should she say no? I don't know. That's a whole other problem. Yes, on the other hand, is simple. She would be out of my life. Him, too. He would probably be a friend, because that's the way things seem to go. I would do everything in my power to never talk to them again.

If either of them tried to patch things up, I would ignore them. Sure, I would flirt with the idea of forgiving them once or twice. An idea easy to trash, though. I guess I'm just unfairly stubborn about some things. Being lied to and cheated on likes this by my friends is one of these things.

How would I deal with a one-off cheat? I don't know. I guess if it didn't snowball into the kind of long-term cheat mentioned before then I would never notice it. Unless I was told about it, which could.. I don't know. It's complicated. I suppose it would be better to wait and see with this one.

Gah.

[Azure Chrysanthemum]

I highly doubt it. The "what if it happens again?" would be too large in my mind for me to ever trust the person again.

[Jebus]

I couldn't not forgive them. I have pretty much no interest in sex myself, so I can completely see why they'd do it.

The only problem I have with it is the lying and stuff.

[Twilight Edge]

I will forgive them.Always give people a second chance for pete's sake,A SECOND CHANCE!!