Wow, I've never heard "pole-smoker" before. Fudge-packer, yeah, but no smoking of poles yet.

I'm gay, and those terms really don't bother me. You'll even hear me say them from time to time around my close friends, if something particularly gay has occurred.

My sexuality doesn't define me, and I don't understand why so many people think it should. It's a part of me, yes, but it's not who I am, so why should it offend me? Should I also be offended any time I'm called a white boy, a silly nerd, or a stupid american?

There's weightier matters to get bent out of shape over. As long as people respect my space, we're all good. Dish out the insults all you like - I'll dish them right back and then take you out for lunch.