I know what you mean. I'm nearly 23, and one set of my Grandparents are in their late 80's. The other set are in their early 70's, and are not in good health at all. My Grandfather suffered a stroke earlier this year, and although he has recovered well, hasn't been the same since. Now, we all know that once someone suffers a stroke (or multiple strokes), they don't tend to live very long afterwards. I'm not trying to be morbid, but I guess that's just life.

I don't want to have to come to terms with the fact that my Grandfather will probably die very soon, as he isn't in good health at all. I also don't want to have to come to terms with the fact that my other Grandma suffers from dementia, and is slowly forgetting everything she ever knew. It's harrowing to see, but there's nothing I can do to stop it.

Instead of constantly worrying about what's going to happen, I try to focus on spending time with them and making them happy. They love it when we visit with the kids, and they love simple things like telephone calls from us. I know they'll die soon, but I don't think about it; taking care of them and giving them pleasure is what matters the most.

That's how I deal with things, anyhow. =/