lol, thanks for the help everyone, i made it there; and had a good time actually....

Now, I got in this party and it was VERY weird to me...

it was BLM,BLM,BLM,RDM (me), RDM, and a puller (thf)

we would pull al lizzy and the BLM would nuke (swapping hate) to death while we healed. The other RDM meleed(sp?) as well. (like 7 damage O.o)

It was the most UNstable method I had seen, but hey; who am I to complain? Its my first party. (and to mention the BLM were all casting Dia and BIo right after each other and para,blind, and Bind after they stuck)

Well, maye 30 min later, one of the BLM leaves and they replace him with a ranger....Who is controlling another player who is like 50+ WHM/BLM....

So now we have a PL. I feel completely totally useless bc we are being healed by a PL....one time we were out of MP; the THF and melee RDM killed the thing by theirself bc of the PL. I hated it. (got a level tho!)

well, after awhile; the PL left (yes! useful again) and this time we had a tank, a NIN/WAR. Things go smoothly except for the fact the BLM still were casting enfeebles one after another on the mob and the same message kept coming up "It had no effect"

I ask them to leave this up to me and the other RDM, some said ok; some said nothing....ALL KEPT DOING IT...

now...that is my first party exp...more details; left them out...(got 2 levels)

Any tips? (maybe I should form my own party XD)