I'm pretty sure everyone who posts in this particular forum has a fondness for the game. So the question, "why cant we learn to love to love this game" is an odd thing to ask this group of posters. If we didn't enjoy the game, we wouldn't play it.

I personally do love the game, it's one of my favoritest Final Fantasy games ever.

If you're asking why OTHER people don't love this game, it's because they've never played it. Or they have played it and they just didn't like it all that much. And that's fine. The only annoying thing is when people bash FFXI only because they themselves couldn't find a way to play it and they're bitter about that.