I'll joke around sometimes with the word, "gay," but I would never use words likes, "girly," or, "gay," as an insult because to do so implies that there's something wrong with being that way. There's nothing wrong with girls or homosexuals (at least not as a group) so it makes no sense to call people that as an insult because it insults an entire group of people more than the individual you intended to insult.

Oh, and Pyro, continue doing all those things if that's what you like to do. Hell, carry a purse if you want. Just make sure you're able to call it a purse. If you're secure enough in your manhood to do all these things that people would call you, "girly" over, then you should be secure enough to ignore them when they do it.