Spiders. My Wife (to be) Hates Them.

[Roto13]

Just point out to her that people swallow spiders in their sleep all the time, and yet life goes on. Then she will realize it is all in her head, often the mouth part of her head.

Urban Legends Reference Pages: Spiders Swallowed Per Year

[rubah]

Why not just seal up your home so they stay outside where they can eat bugs like they're supposed to?

[eestlinc]

Just point out to her that people swallow spiders in their sleep all the time, and yet life goes on. Then she will realize it is all in her head, often the mouth part of her head.

Urban Legends Reference Pages: Spiders Swallowed Per Year

Of course it's an urban legend. But it's funny.

[Miriel]

From my experience you just have to accept it and vow to protect her from spiders at all costs. At least you don't see as many spiders as you do birds.

From my experience, phobias tend to grow if you don't keep them in check. I was disgusted by birds at first, and then that disgust turned to fear. And that fear turned to paranoia. I know that I'm pretty bad with my phobia, but it could be worse. The only way I keep it in check is to constantly remind myself that the chances of a bird actually attacking me are pretty slim.

Plus, having a loving and protective boyfriend helps a ton.

[Rye]

From my experience you just have to accept it and vow to protect her from spiders at all costs. At least you don't see as many spiders as you do birds.

From my experience, phobias tend to grow if you don't keep them in check. I was disgusted by birds at first, and then that disgust turned to fear. And that fear turned to paranoia. I know that I'm pretty bad with my phobia, but it could be worse. The only way I keep it in check is to constantly remind myself that the chances of a bird actually attacking me are pretty slim.

Plus, having a loving and protective boyfriend helps a ton.

Awwww! Cuteeee!

PS: Sorry if any pictures of my bird on LJ scared you in the past years. xD I've tried to keep them all in cuts if I ever post them now to be considerate.

[eestlinc]

how can you be afraid of birds? at least spiders crawl on people and bite.

[rubah]

birds poop on you

[Yamaneko]

how can you be afraid of birds? at least spiders crawl on people and bite.

I never understood it either, so I just attributed it to hysteria.

[eestlinc]

trees might fall down on me, but I am not afraid of trees

women...

[Madame Adequate]

Phobias aren't rational. That's why they're phobias, and not sensibly fears like "Fire hot, dun stick yer intimate parts into it".

[Mr Cactuar]

Spiders a mad. They keep bugs out of and around the house, make good pets and are just cool.

I've never seen how someone can be afraid of spiders, or snakes, or lizards.

Damn myths.

[DarkLadyNyara]

Phobias aren't rational. That's why they're phobias, and not sensibly fears like "Fire hot, dun stick yer intimate parts into it".

Exactly.

I would recomend at least considering professional help. Phobias are difficult to "get over", and it sounds like hers is really having a bad effect on her life.

Also, please share your spider experiences, and tell us whether you love them or hate them and why. Thanks.

I'm fine with spiders, so long as they aren't on me. Mostly I just ignore them. (though the movie Aracnophobia still freaks me out.)

[Miriel]

how can you be afraid of birds? at least spiders crawl on people and bite.

What part of irrational fear do you not understand?

[Shlup]

I've actually noticed myself developing a phobia to spiders in the last few years. It's weird, I used to love them. Now when I see them I can feel my stomach flop and my pulse quicken and I have to resist the urge to flail. If I have to smash I spider I'll start shaking and vomit.

The only way I know how to deal with it is to make myself deal with spiders. Like big juicy ones I wont deal with but Daddy Longlegs I'll go as far as to hold. When I was a kid I used to love to play with them anyway.

EDIT: You think that's bad, eest? You don't watch enough daytime TV. There was a chick running and screaming away from tin foil.

[blackmage_nuke]

Dress up as spider man and give her some lovin, then when she thinks of spiders, she'll think of you

That could be good or bad i dont know