Quote Originally Posted by Miriel View Post
Balls to both of you, you're overthinking it.

The person who you usually call first when something amazing, or sad, or unbelievable, or hilarious happens, that's the person who is your best friend. If you literally call a different person each time, then you are totally spazzy and I don't believe you. You can have more than one best friend for sure, but ALL your friends can't equally be close to you. There has to be someone you think of first. Your go-to person. That's your best friend.
Not at all. I have different people I talk to for different issues, and different people I hang out with when I feel like doing something different. For instance, got my buddy Evan who's been my friend since we were 4 or 5. See him maybe once every couple of months just to hang out and catch up, and we get on like a house on fire and everything is great and bros etc etc etc but I don't tell him when I'm upset or whatever, that's just not the kind of relationship we got. Both of us know that if tit got real real serious that we'd be there, but it's one of those typical "I'm a guy don't be hugging me" things.

But then you look at Timekeeper and we've been mates for like 6ish years and we're bros and hang out relatively frequently and discuss politics and philosophy and video games and tit and sometimes when I get in a bad way I'll have a chat to him about stuff, but I don't rank him any higher as a friend. We tight too, and there's plenty of stuff I can talk to him about, but it's not everything y'know.

Then I got my buddy Stephanie who I only met in class last year but we've been getting on well and I can talk to her about all sorts of other stuff. I don't rank her any lower than those two despite the short time I've known her.

Then I got people that I don't even associate with any more because there's just no shared interests or nothing but if I called them up and say "hey I need ya" then they'd listen, and I'd do the same for them. This tier ranking stuff just doesn't fly with me. I remember a female friend of mine telling me a story about how her friends in primary school all "decided" they "weren't going to have any best friends" but then she secretly went up to another girl and said "but you're still my best friend okay?" It's just like a kids game to me. I know who I can rely on and who's there for me but I generally surround myself with great people so no matter how unfortunate I get, I know there'll be someone there. No need to go "you're a better friend than this person but not this person." I'll hang out with any of them, including half these wackjobs I met online. It's how I got all around the US almost entirely without paying for accommodation.