What do you do in situations that involve a child asking about things they aren't supposed to know (i.e. sex)?
I usually just avoid the situation and try to make them forget about it. Hey, it's better than lying.
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What do you do in situations that involve a child asking about things they aren't supposed to know (i.e. sex)?
I usually just avoid the situation and try to make them forget about it. Hey, it's better than lying.
I feel a bit strange, because I've known about sex and drugs for as long as I can remember.
I was certainly naive as a kid, but I at least knew about sex and drugs. :-/
Luckily my little ones haven't got to this point yet. However, with my five year old nephew, I found that if you use really big words and give them a complicated answer, they'll leave you alone about it, and immediately go ask their parents.
My sister in law hates it when I do that. I dread the day she does it to me...
I've never really been asked, but I think it'd be best to kind of tell it to them based on what's appropriate of their age, rather then flat out tell them/lie.
I'm a bad person. :(
Give them enough information to satisfy their curiosity, without going overboard.
Essentially, what Rye said.
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I tell them fairy tales about the "snake" and "pink taco" :bigsmile: Nothing like a fairy tale to explain things to kids..!
My sister: Sissy what's a condom?
Me: Ask you mom... MOOOOOM WHAT'S A CONDOM?
:d I always ask my sister to ask her mother :bigsmile:
Pink Taco, thats hilarious :P
I'm gonna make my husband deal with those questions when the time comes. :p
Depends on how they are related to me. A friend's or family member's kid? I'd lie or tell them to ask mommy. A stranger's? I'd tell the truth. My own, or one I had jurisdiction over? I'd tell the truth.
I'd tell them the truth, but it would be a child freindly version of the truth. My little sister is more perverted than me, an she's only seven. She has been corrupted, an it makes angry. :mad2: I think it's disgusting when older people try an pervert children.
With that particular question? I'd pop in a porno and make them watch. Then I'd tell them they're supposed to do that with their little friends. Then I'd get arrested.
That second option.
It would be a mix of the first two options, I'd start it as a fairytale and switch to telling them straight for a surprise blow to the stomache.
Yep. Well I probably wouldn't talk to a stranger's kid for fear of being killed by said stranger.Quote:
Originally Posted by I'm my own MILF
I'd ask them the ?uestion back. Stating I don't know anything about it either.
There's nothing they 'shouldn't know'. There is absolutely no reason to hide sex from children, so if I was ever put in that situation I'd flat out tell them. The only bad that could come out of it is an offended parent.
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Originally Posted by sephirothishere
Most of the time i tell a ridiculouse fairy tail that even they won't believe then they laugh and forget about the question. otherwise I'll tell them to ask there mom or something.
Explicit details.
I'd flat out tell them. And then say they weren't allowed to do it until they were seventeen.
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It's funny this comes up because my little sister just asked recently where babies come from...:P I made up some fairy tale and told that to her instead of telling her how it is because I don't want her to go repeating it to her kindergarden teacher...Imagine what kind of image my parents would get from that o.O
I voted run away screaming, as it's the closest to my (particularly sadistic) method. I merely point them towards the nearest adult saying they likely know.
I'll tell them about meiosis and when they understand that i'll tell them how its done
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They're going to find out sooner or later. You can't lie to them forever.
Could someone please explain to me why they shouldn't know about it? I still haven't been able to figure that one out.
Learning early can only help the child. I say tell them. Explain it. Get a helpful book. Answer any further questions they have. Get over your own hangups about sex if you have any while you are at it.
I would do something along the lines of what roto said.
...Or I could just show them this.
http://www.phototour.dreamhost.com/pics/3935.jpg
I'd simply say "That's called '****', dear."
When they ask again, I'll say "You'll know in due time."
Tell it to them straight and pray they don't become curious. But make sure their at least 7-8 before you tell them or you'll scar them like my mom did me. "You came from my uterus and vagina and not my stomach." I seriously had nightmares when she told me that when I was 6.
I see no reason to lie to them. I'd tell them what they wanna know.
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I'd really like an answer to this as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by nik0tine
Because it's inappropriate. We kinda forgot how it's inappropriate as time went on, though. >.>Quote:
Originally Posted by JebusI see no reason to lie to them. I'd tell them what they wanna know.
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I'd really like an answer to this as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by nik0tine
How is it inappropriate?
You tell kids that it's wrong to lie, but then you lie when they ask questions like that.
First I would ask "what do you mean?". And pray to every god that has ever graced any human pantheon that the question can be answered without delving in that direction to far.
If not, well, "I'll tell you when you're older" worked on me.
Let's knock it off with the spam, such as "I am a cool dude." It contributes nothing to the thread and is not needed.
It depends on the question ask. If it's harmless, I'll tell them the truth. If it's something they shouldn't be asking about. I'll let them know. >=]
It's inappropriate because it's inappropriate. Humans don't need logical reason, even if using it would prove useful. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Jebus
I tell the kids straight. They don't have to be embarrassed that way.
I've known for as long as I can remember, too.
That's not a very good answer. I don't see why children should be shielded from the truth.Quote:
Originally Posted by KentarouIt's inappropriate because it's inappropriate. Humans don't need logical reason, even if using it would prove useful. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Jebus
They should be told how things work from the get-go.
I haven't ever had a child ask me about sex. I have had my younger cousins ask me what Pads and tampons are when they've found mine or someone elses. I usually just say 'It's something older girls use' and leave it at that. One of my older boy cousins asked me and I just told him to see his Mum. I didn't feel it was my place to talk about something so private.
I think it's inappropriate to tell children about sex in explicit detail at a young age. They shouldn't have to be subjected to something so mature. Sure, they want to know how things work - but there are ways to explain it to suit their age.
I've only had that question once, and I lied my ass off. I made it really obvious that I was lying and she understood that, so she gave up and talked about something else. I don't know what I'd do if it was my own kid, though. I'd probably skip the detail and tell him the basics. He'll learn about this from the kids at school soon enough anyway.
The internet will teach him everything that is needed.
An excruciating long and detailed explanation on whatever subject I am asked about. Usually with visual aids.
I tend to lie when my godson askes me questions. I cant bring my heart to lie to him just yet!
I'm going to assume this is a typo and that you didn't just say you lie to your godson because you can't bear lying to him.Quote:
Originally Posted by ~SapphireStar~
This, of course, leaves the question of which "lie" was a typo, though.
Oops, yeah sorry my mind was else where! Yeah I lie to him now cause I cant tell him the truth about stuff he askes him, example Father Christmas being not real! Thanks for that!
"Ask your mother."
or
"Ask your father."
And then I run away. :[
Usually it would be a younger sibling or a cousin, I would say "I'll tell you later," or "I dunno," but secretly hope they find out in other ways. I'm not really good at having these "talks".
explain in a sensibile manner, plus tell them its for grown ups and alot of bad dieses can happend to u if you do it, i would advice you show them some pictures of what could happend, not to graphical dough or youll turn them into a wierdo when they're older, reasons.. well you know that
I'd tell them straight.
Either they take it, or they don't.
"THATS LIFE" you tell them
I like living in world without pussies(metaphorical, not the body part), I tell it to them straight.
I can't say I've been in the situtation often, but if I was with my kids in the future, I would probably have to tell a small lie or divert their attention. I believe that we should try not to cause these situations though.
Santa Claus, for example; all that charade ends in is little kids being upset. Why do we maintain that situation? I'm going to make sure not to start it with my kids; somehow I won't introduce Santa Claus, while ensuring that my kids won't ruin the beleif for their classmates.(I'm not sure how I'm going to do that though.)
I have a very funny story saved somewhere about this subject, but if I posted it, I would get the post snipped most likely.
As for the question, nope, never been asked that, as both my brother and I just read about it in books. To hell with asking someone and getting crooked answers because were not old enough, we figured wed just look it up ourselves xD (And when I looked it up, it was like O_o)
well the child is most likely NOT mine so i have no business telling them anything that could be important. so i run.
Whenever my 9 year old brother asks I tell him that he's too young to know or that he'll find out when he's older. Then I tell him to ask dad.