Love is not a Game!!!!

[Mirage]

I think a pure text chat is insufficient when it comes to showing emotions. However, nowadays we have video and voice chat too, not to mention phones. It's still not a lot compared to real physical interaction.

I'm not saying it's not real luff when it's purely online, I'm just saying that it's hard to express all your emotions through text. It's easier when you can hear the other persons voice and see her, but still far from the real thing.

I sometimes call people i know online just to hear their voice. That way, I feel closer to the person, cause he or she is more than just words on a screen, I've got a voice to go with it aswell.

[Blue]

I'm not saying that love cant happen over the net, not saying that at all. I'm not jelouse at all about them getting together online. Many girls like me online. but i wouldnt go as far as say that i love them.

I realised that i may have offended people in this but it must be said for my own peice of mind.

Imagine being abliged to go out with someone 1000 miles away when you could be going out with someone that lives more localy.

Good for those have found love and are meeting. But if youve never even seen the person before only talked.

If you think a relationship will work with some you have never met it is nieve.

I aggree this is not impossable but highly improbable.

Especially this goes to if your older saying to a girl who doesnt know better. You should no better not play with a girls heart. Giving them false beliefs that it could work will only hurt them more in the end.

[Rye]

...However, if it is possible to see one another offline and you plan on eventually being together, even if that isn't for a number of years, I don't see what the problem is with online dating.

Yes, I agree with that.

[Shauna]

i think Blue has a great point. I agree with almost all of it, though people who meet online and meet in person later and fall in love once they meet are fine in my book.

[Avathar]

Love isn't a game, it's a drug.

[DynasticJam]

Your 16000 miles apart. Youve never met. You've never seen each other. You dont even know what each other looks like. Hes 18 shes 15. The dude says he loves her. The girl says he loves him.

Dude get a life its chat. Your not going to get married and run away to Tokyo together.

I say get a life. Get a real girl that you know or like around the neighborhood stop breaking a girls heart in another country with false beliefs that it could happen.

THINK REALISTICALLY. Long term relationships with people you dont know in real life dont work.

GET A LIFE YOU SAD PEOPLE!!!!!!!!

This topic was brought up in a recent event through chat. How about we keep it chat.

And you would know!!!???

[Psydekick]

who exactly is this thread about?

[Crop]

E-dating is stupid. It's for social outcasts and losers who are embarassed about their lack of ability to get a real girlfriend in real life, so they have to get one on the internet. Pretty pathetic if you ask me.

Thats not entirely true.

[Blue]

I aint naming ppl here. Its not my place. I just dont think much good can come out of it. It's much healthier and better for everyone if you get someone that you know and is close to home or at least within bus distance.

Plus at least you could even hug them if you knew them socially.

[Lost Number]

My views

Meeting someone on the internet, people instinctively create an image of the person. Their ‘avatar’, behaviour, form of speech, all contributes to this. Most examples of “internet love” fall apart when people begin to realize that they have only fallen for the residual image of the person. In time this becomes apparent. The reason why people create these shields is because the internet fosters a certain sense of invulnerability. This is on both sides. Most people, in fact, view internet people as non-existent. They cannot be seen, so either a stronger mental image is created or the person becomes unfeeling towards the other. This becomes a sort of “game”. Success becomes keeping the other side believing in the ‘game’. Sooner or later one player becomes disillusioned with the game and either come clean or simply remove possibility of contact, although this is rare. The amount of time taken for this to occur is variable. This can come as a shock if the other ‘player’ believes in the game.

argh...

[DynasticJam]

Well there are more successfull online relationships than there are un-successful relationships, I can tell you that!

[Madame Adequate]

Everyone saying that "It's ok if they plan to meet up and make it not-online in the future" should possibly realize that, in every single instance I've been aware of, that's a given.

The criticism people are levelling at it are largely valid, but also largely irrelevant because... well... people DO want to meet up in real life. And people DO call each other/voice chat/webcam/etc. Sometimes these things aren't easily achieved (In my case I'd have had to move to another country, which I was perfectly willing to do and would be again if I found someone.) but that doesn't mean they're not on the list.

[Ultima Shadow]

Love is not a game!!!!

Anyways... yeah, e-dating is no good unless you've actually met the person in real life. If you have, though, then I don't see a problem with it.

[Gullick]

i agree with you Lost Number, until i while ago i saw it as a game too, i was being a lot more successful with girls than i was in real life. but talking to someone has no made me realise that it isnt a game and that you need to treat people you talk to on the internet as you waould in real life. But now ever since i've stopped messing around, i really do think that love can exist over the internet, even though you may never see this person and you live hundreds of miles away.

[Pike]

Online dating (or any long-distance relationship, for that matter) is extraordinarily difficult and often does not work out.

However, sometimes it does. I've seen it work out for some of my friends, I've seen it work out for some of my family members, and thus far it's working out for me.

Does the fact that I met my boyfriend online a few years ago and the fact that I currently can only see him in person once every few months (if that) make me a sad, pathetic loser with no life and no social skills? Heck, even if it does, I don't care. Because I'm in love with my best friend and I'm happy. Happier than I ever was in any of my other relationships.

Difficult, yes. But in my book, it's worth it to try and make love work, no matter where you find it.