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    Some people say they are happy when they really aren't. They base their happiness on things such as cars, girls (or guys), money, a fancy job and so on rather than basing their happiness from within themselves. See, basing your happiness on objects is called object-referral. That kind of happiness doesn't last forever. Object-referral happiness only lasts as long as the object of referance is there. Once that fancy job title, sexy girlfriend, money, or car is gone, your confindence goes away as well. When you are truely happy and base you happiness from within, that happiness or confidence doesn't go away. It can be called self-referral. What I mean from happiness coming from within is that you draw your happiness based on true self-confindence. That means you love yourself and you are unfearful of being yourself. Some people avoid being themselves in fear that people won't like them. If you constantly look for approval, you will NEVER be truely happy. The thing with object-referral happiness that you have that fany job, supermodel girlfriend, and you draw happiness from you money is being you think with all that stuff, people will like you, but when all that stuff is gone, you have to find another way to get people to like you. You search for that acceptance and are affraid you won't be accepted. When you are truely happy, this fear doesn't exist because you have self-confindence.

    So, I'll ask you now: Are you happy? Please don't make a joke out of this thread, I want a serious discussion.


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    Well I have my family, a roof over my head, still got my boyfriend after all the crap we've gone through, gotten into the university I was trying to transfer to and I know people love and care about me. That makes me happy.

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    You make me chuckle.

    No I'm not happy, You know the reasons I'm not happy, because I have none of the above. I have no car, therefore no way to get around and have a life, I have money, it's not keeping me happy because all it does is buy me material things, which yeah like you said, keep me temporarily happy. I am lonely, sad and depressed, because my material wealth isn't enough to get me to were I want to go. Money gets me the car, car gets me out of this house I dub as solitary confinement. In a sense money does equal happiness, You have shelter, it cost money, your food cost money, money keeps the nessecities for you. Now if you say "But the poor people in Africa are happy" they are content with their lives, they get charity work, strangely, charity work revolves around money. I would sell all my material items that I have to be truely happy and content with my life for one day, but if I sold all the things I have to make me happy, it would buy a car, yet another material item, no one is happy alone and with nothing. Everyone is happy because of -something- material or sentimental. But everyone needs someone, and something, it's a basic part of life.

    Oh and I'm content with my life, there's nothing to take from me, but always something to gain. I'm just not happy with having nothing in the sentimental sense. Yeah sure people care about me, but I want to be with those people. Not having to live my life out of a room and a job for a few hours.

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    I think at this point in my life I am very happy.

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    Whatever. My mom takes care of me, so yes. Excpet for school-school is a hell hole.

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    You got the wrong forum if you don't want jokes, buddy.

    Me? Yeah, I'm pretty happy. I have great friends, a decent job. I just got a place to live, and I got acceptance to college. And that does make me happy. Also self referral happiness, or whatever you call them, only lasts as long as you last, so you know, might as well have some object referrals. Everything is temporary. Also, the happiness I get from my friends won't last forever, but it will last a pretty damn long time.

    Besides, if something should go wrong, there's always bingo nights. <--- lol joke :laugh:


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    I'm happy, because I realize that meaningless material objects can never keep me happy for long. It's the things that matter in life that keep me happy.

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    Yup, im happy. I have a house to live in, food, people who love me. And a great family. Course im happy. There are those bumps in the road, but its all good.

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    on the entire human race....

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    I'm happy.
    Sure I may go through periods of unhappiness where I feel like crying every moment of the day... but since I shrugged off those people who try to call themselves my friends, and now that things with my Mum moving out have all calmed down... I really am happy, and I haven't had any depressed moments for ages.

    So yeah, I'm happy. Bored, but very happy.

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    I'm me, why bother caring 'bout emotions? they come and go, as long as I'm me, I don't care 'bout "I'm I happy" :meditate:

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    I'm never consistently happy or consistently sad. I bounce between them at a normal rate like all people do. Anybody who expects to ever reach some sort of pure constant state of happy-time is never going to get it. Money and other material things can, however, alleviate a lot of problems and stress and allow you to focus on being happy, so I wouldn't totally count those out either. Overall, I'm content though. So yes. Probably should have just said "yes".

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    I'm happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LunarWeaver
    I'm never consistently happy or consistently sad. I bounce between them at a normal rate like all people do. Anybody who expects to ever reach some sort of pure constant state of happy-time is never going to get it. Money and other material things can, however, alleviate a lot of problems and stress and allow you to focus on being happy, so I wouldn't totally count those out either. Overall, I'm content though. So yes. Probably should have just said "yes".
    My frieeendd~~~ Content and happy are different things in this case. If I said "yes" to being content, then I would be okay with how my life is, but yet I am not. Content with your life means that you would be alright with living like this forever, in a sense that would be your idea of happiness. I am not happy -living- because living would imply me and life are having an awesome time together. But we are not.
    Therefore, I exist until I can find the true happiness, I don't expect it by anymeans. So if things stay how they are now, alone and solitary with the few people I see at work and the customers I help, that's okay, because I honestly don't believe that I can be happy being alone, or going around doing as I'm doing. I'm selfless to the point it's self-destructive, I'm -very- aware of that, but yet I keep existing. I'd rather go around and jump infront of 100 bullets for the very few people I care about then dodge one bullet and let it hit one of them. Until I feel like I am free in the literall sense, and that I can live with out relying on others help because help is very rare when it comes to helping me, then I will just keep existing.
    The only thing that does make me any kind of happy, is when I make others happy. But that seems to last as long as material happiness, because I can't keep people happy forever, if I could I'd do anything for that person that could say "Hey, I think you will keep me happy for the rest of my life" but I don't have that since of confidence, I don't care about my well being, I care about everyone elses. Because I'm a slightly different ignorant human just like everyone else. (Contradicting I know.)

    Point being.. I don't care about my happiness, I can be alone my entire life, just as long as everyone else I know is happy.

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    I don't know. I'm happy with the friends I've got, but I have issues that make me feel very unhappy. That's my honest answer for ya'.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Avarice-ness
    My frieeendd~~~ Content and happy are different things in this case. If I said "yes" to being content, then I would be okay with how my life is, but yet I am not. Content with your life means that you would be alright with living like this forever, in a sense that would be your idea of happiness.
    That is quite right my Zozo friend, I just made a bad choice by using the word content. You may spit on it like it deserves. Sneak a kick in too, nobody's watching. What I meant to say was I'm happy the majority of the time and feel comfortable describing myself as a happy person.

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