Breakdown

[Quindiana Jones]

Play games that can win you money, and never lose That's my remedy for not-feeling-good.

[I Am Stoner]

well see I'm in college, I've met and meet plenty of people, but still.

sigh, I just don't know

THE JACKAL

Do you feel lonely? Like a bit of you is missing? Like your soul needs something to hold onto? My advice is start to mingle with more people, start going to the movies with them. When I had that hole within me, it was filled by the woman I love. Maybe its your way of saying, i am fed up with being lonely, no one there to hold you, to kiss you, to comfort you or to protect you. Its just a suggestion. I hope everything works out for you mate. Good luck.

[farplaner]

I find it somewhat annoying that everyone's advice for someone who has trouble making friends is to "just get out their and meet people." That's the problem! Not everyone who is lonely sits huddled in a cave having never seen the light of day. Simply being around peopl is not enough to make friends. I know that may sound difficult to believe for those of you who get along well in social situations, but it's not the same for everyone.

....to elaborate, I know most of you are trying to help, but try to consider what type of person you are dealing with before you tell (figuratively speaking) a parapalegic "you just gotta' get out there and start walking with people!"

[ljkkjlcm9]

yeah he's right, cause I get out a lot, and I know plenty of people. Actually I can't go anywhere at this school without seeing a few people I know and saying hi, but one of them are actually like close friends, ya know? I get along with most people really well, my few friends tell me I have some sorta charisma. But the friends I do have are typically busy and I can't really talk/hang out with them much, so I'm usually alone.

THE JACKEL

[Polaris]

U can't be 24 hours with them! I haven't been with my friends for almost 2 weeks... I've been always (or pretty much always) on my home... it sucks! But I can speak to my bf and friends... I write, i draw I try to keep myself busy to don't feel so alone...

[Roto13]

You have charisma? Because when I read this topic I was thinking, "Well, I can see him being lonely. From what I know about him, I wouldn't want to talk to him."

[ljkkjlcm9]

You have charisma? Because when I read this topic I was thinking, "Well, I can see him being lonely. From what I know about him, I wouldn't want to talk to him."

yes well about all I think you know, is I don't approve of homosexuality. But I'm a very easy going guy and can be pretty funny and most of the people I know say it's always interesting/fun to hang out with me. No offense roto, but you don't know much of anything about me, and more than likely if you ran into me, you wouldn't know it and we'd probably talk. I am one of those people that talks to everyone, can strike a conversation anytime, got that from my dad.

and no I can't be 24 hours with them, but when we live on the same campus, less than 5 minutes from eachother, and I don't see them for a month, that tends to make me lonely.

THE JACKEL

[Christmas]

I find this kinda contradicting since you can get along well with people but you are alway alone. And from what I know, you dun wanna be alone. so if that is the case, just go out there and make new friends when you are alone and feel like wanting someone to be by your side.

[ljkkjlcm9]

I find this kinda contradicting since you can get along well with people but you are alway alone. And from what I know, you dun wanna be alone. so if that is the case, just go out there and make new friends when you are alone and feel like wanting someone to be by your side.

yeah see you don't understand. It's easy to get along with people, but it's hard for me to make friends. It's not that simple to just make new friends. If it were obviously it wouldn't be a problem, but it really isn't that simple. See I've always thought of my charisma as a gift and curse, cause while I can get along with people, I never get close enough to become friends or get anyone to really care about me.

THE JACKEL

[Christmas]

K, how do you define "friend"?

What is "friend" to you?

[ljkkjlcm9]

how about someone that actually wants to hang out with me when they have free time and invites me to things when they're going out. Yeah it'd be nice if I actually got invited to anything by anyone I know, but I'm typically forgotten or the last choice when it comes down to it.

THE JACKEL

[Christmas]

Like you said:

But the friends I do have are typically busy

BTW, they never invite you out or anything?

[~*~Celes~*~]

Hey, I'll help you

I went through a similar time my freshman year. My mom was getting surgery done, my grades were slipping, my friends were turning against me...it seemed like crap. What I did was I rode through it and eventually, got my grades back up and made new friends. My mom made it through surgery just fine.

Basically all you need to do is get through it. I'll be here via PM, email, or IM if you need to talk to me I know that you need friends right now so I'll be there for ya!

[Fonzie]

Hrmm...you have to find something in common with these people you want to make friends with. I mean, making close friends began in Junior High. Seems you started quite late. Why now do you want close friends? Is it for suport?

[ljkkjlcm9]

I tried making close friends in junior high, and thought I had some through highschool, but no-one I was friends with talks to me anymore.

And no, I rarely if ever get invited anywhere, which is funny because they know even if they're doing something I don't particularly enjoy, I'll go with them for the company because I'd rather hang out with them than be alone. It's really quite annoying I don't get invited out more often.

THE JACKEL