Boys love their moms, girls love their dads

[Avarice-ness]

So, do you believe that it's true that when you date, you date someone:
Girl - Like your father
Boy - Like your mother

Apparently, males are naturally attuned to date someone who reminds them of their mother and vice versa for females.

My sister found this to be true like 6 years after marriage, basically my brother in law put up christmas lights and admired them in a very weird way that only our dad used to do. (He stood in the backyard and admired how their house looked from the back... not the front)
My boyfriend is so much like my dad it's -creepy-, he tries to play fight with me, he's a practical joker, he finds purposely stupid movies to be the best thing ever, and he even snores like my dad. *points at bed* I'm having flashbacks of hearing my dad snoring from a room over now, it's terrifying.

So! Have you dated anyone that was like your respective parent (father or mother)? Do you feel that those are the best people to date? How to you feel about the basic theory that people date their father or mother in a younger form?

[Rye]

Now, Freud and I are bffs, we have regular sleep overs and we give each others mani-pedis while discussing cute boys and the Oedipal Syndrome/Electra Complex, but I don't find that to be true for me.

My boyfriend (intelligent, well read, open minded, artistically inclined) is pretty much the exact opposite of my father. And I quite like it that way.

[Aerith's Knight]

*thinks*

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[Medi]

Well, if I were to date someone like my mother, I'd be dating a racist and homophobic slob, so basically no. The thought disgusts me. My primary female role model, instead of my mother, would probably be my sister Julia, age 24. She's so intellectual and does a lot of humanitarian work, and she's not a complete bigot. So I could see myself dating someone similar to my sister.

This theory must really be situational, but I can see how this may be the case for many other folks.

[Caraliz]

i once dated a guy that reminded me a little of my dad (socially retarded, slow, and didn't know how to handle things) and it annoyed me endlessly. now i date someone that's totally chill and calm and he handles himself and situations to do with me with grace. i love him. he is nothing like my father.

[Captain Maxx Power]

Both my parents are really awesome people. I wouldn't mind going out with anyone with the positive traits of my mum. I'd actually count myself lucky if I did. I do think though Freud suggested that we don't just want someone like our mum/dad; we WANT our mum/dad i.e. we're actually obsessed with them and that follows through into our adult life. By that standard I'm the complete opposite; my mum's about twice my size and I prefer smaller, petite women.

[Araciel]

She's female.

[LunarWeaver]

Thank the sweet talking horse Ed this is not true. I would not even be in the presence of anybody remotely like my parents. I honestly don't think Freud ever knows wtf he's talking about

[CimminyCricket]

The girl I'm currently with is unlike either of my parents, or anyone that I've ever met. So, no!

[Madame Adequate]

Now, Freud and I are bffs, we have regular sleep overs and we give each others mani-pedis while discussing cute boys and the Oedipal Syndrome/Electra Complex, but I don't find that to be true for me.

My boyfriend (intelligent, well read, open minded, artistically inclined) is pretty much the exact opposite of my father. And I quite like it that way.

However, some Freudians argue that by going out with someone opposite to your parent, you're still wanting to go after your parent, and still being defined by them.

I think that's useless logic, myself. Whatever you do, Freudians find a way to explain it in terms of your parents, no matter how tenuous.

[Shiny]

Meh. I think people are subconsciously prone to date people that remind them of their parents whether they like it or not. But also think there's others who are prone to stay away from people who remind them of their parents as well.

[Rye]

Now, Freud and I are bffs, we have regular sleep overs and we give each others mani-pedis while discussing cute boys and the Oedipal Syndrome/Electra Complex, but I don't find that to be true for me.

My boyfriend (intelligent, well read, open minded, artistically inclined) is pretty much the exact opposite of my father. And I quite like it that way.

However, some Freudians argue that by going out with someone opposite to your parent, you're still wanting to go after your parent, and still being defined by them.

I think that's useless logic, myself. Whatever you do, Freudians find a way to explain it in terms of your parents, no matter how tenuous.

And how does that make you feel?

[KentaRawr!]

Well, I wouldn't mind dating someone like my Mom. She's nice! My Sister doesn't like our father much, but she does have occasional musical talks with him, and they joke around sometimes. None of her BF's have reminded me of Poppy, though...

[Momiji]

So, do you believe that it's true that when you date, you date someone:
Girl - Like your father
Boy - Like your mother

Apparently, males are naturally attuned to date someone who reminds them of their mother and vice versa for females.

My sister found this to be true like 6 years after marriage, basically my brother in law put up christmas lights and admired them in a very weird way that only our dad used to do. (He stood in the backyard and admired how their house looked from the back... not the front)
My boyfriend is so much like my dad it's -creepy-, he tries to play fight with me, he's a practical joker, he finds purposely stupid movies to be the best thing ever, and he even snores like my dad. *points at bed* I'm having flashbacks of hearing my dad snoring from a room over now, it's terrifying.

So! Have you dated anyone that was like your respective parent (father or mother)? Do you feel that those are the best people to date? How to you feel about the basic theory that people date their father or mother in a younger form?

I would never date someone like my mom. No. Ugh...no.

[Chemical]

I have unconditional attachment to my mother.
Does this mean I want to find a man like her?