noxious.sunshine

Holy trout, is Hi5 still a thing? I think I registered for that in like... 2006 or some trout, absentmindedly.

Don't burden yourself with being uncomfortable right now for the sake if your little girl. You don't need to take responsibility on gathering information for her about him because he stepped out. If someday she asks you about her father and you come up short for answers, you have nothing to feel guilty about because he is the one who chose to leave.

When the time comes for her to understand the situation, you can ask her if she wants a relationship with her father and go from there. I wouldn't bother with him until then if this is the sort of distress he causes you.

I mean. All I have is a picture. That's it. And not even the one of us together. We didn't know each other for very long.

He got deported while I was pregnant. There's no chance of him ever coming back - not legally or illegally. I didn't hear from him for a year and the only reason he called me was because the girl he'd gotten engaged to dumped him. And either way, he has no rights to her. Once you leave the country like that, it's seen as abandonment and you lose privileges to the child.

I'll never know where he is. And he'll -never- step up and volunteer to be there for her. I tried maintaining some -sort- of relationship with him, but it's just pointless. I'm not going to let her go through that kind of hurt and disappointment. It hurts enough that she asks me if she can have a dad whenever she wants one and when she says she has 3 mommies and I'm supposed to be her only mommy and she's supposed to live with me.

I know it hurts right now while she's still little. When she gets older, I'm sure she'll understand everything you and your sister/family did for her in trying to make sure she had the best childhood possible.