Inspired by the "What If" thread currently going around this forum, what are the main points of your life where things have taken a turn, be it your lifestyle or your personality, or possibly something else? You can skip birth, that's too obvious. Maybe this will be a good way to get to know everyone here. It's like a miniautobiography.
Here's me.
- Parents Divorce. (11-13 years old) This is the first time my life had a dramatic change of circumstances. I suddenly had my family completely changed. It used to be Dad, Mum, Nikki (sister) and I. Now it was Mum in a different location, while Dad, Nikki and I were in our house but were planning a move into a new house, at which point Dad would marry Anneke who would move in with my new stepbrother, stepsister and half-sister. Extremely emotional and painful time. This is the time that I felt I was born into the darker sides of life. Thrust into reality, out from my fantasy world. It's strange how naiive I was when Mum moved out. I just didn't really pay too much attention. I didn't understand things very much, I just assumed it'd all be normal anyway. This episode lasted about two years altogether.
- Starting High School. (13 years old) All the friends I had picked up on over the past years were gone, all off to new schools. I, on the other hand, had moved to a different part of Auckland and didn't have any friends in my school for about a month. I was insanely shy and would pretend to be doing homework at lunchtime. It was embarrassing when Nikki would come over with her friends to say hi. She probably did it just to show off her little brother, or possibly she was trying to make me feel a bit of companionship on some kind of level, but it just highlighted to me how crap my life was at that moment in time. I ended up getting the best friends about a month later that would remain my friends all the way through high school. I loved that place. But it was certainly a big change.
- Getting Run Over. (15 years old) I was always a relatively quiet guy even after I got my friends at high school, but once I got my leg run over, everyone wanted to talk to me. I got cards from loads of classes and, more importantly, I was thrust into the adult's ward despite being one year too young because the kid's ward was too full in comparison to the adult's ward. This meant that I spent a lot of time talking with adults rather than kids, and that's something I prefer personally. As I was saying, though, I used to be relatively quiet. When you're in hospital, you have to talk during the day. You're stuck in bed all day and there's not too much to keep you entertained, so you talk with the other guys in the ward. Not just for the sake of conversation - if you sleep during the day, you wake up at night because you need hourly checkups. If you talk a lot during the day, you avoid sleeping, and then you sleep so well at night that they can do their checkups on you without even waking you. Hooyay. On a sidenote, I didn't cry at any point from my injury and I haven't since out of physical pain. The only times I've cried since are due to missing people/pets, and even then, it's insanely rare.
- Joining Eyes on Final Fantasy. (16 years old) Because I joined this forum, I have become an internet addict on some kind of level. Not that I crave it when it's gone, but I just use it all the time when I'm bored. Because of EoFF, I have had numerous girlfriends, numerous best friends, met people, travelled, lost my virginity, gained flatmates and more. I can't express just how much this place has impacted my life, either directly or indirectly. The only way to really express such things is to say that without EoFF, I would more than likely be in a different country living with different people and working in a different job, if not at university.
- Breaking up with Emma, Mandy and Sarah. (17, 19 and 21 years old) I used to be an emotional guy. I was messed up when Emma dumped me and she ended up playing with my emotions afterwards for some time, with her friends helping her out. Eventually there was a point that I thought, you know what? No. No more. She tried to play with me and I just dismissed her. I learned from that first breakup (well, first of these three) how to switch off my emotions. That's a massive learning lesson for any guy. With Mandy, I had a breakup I couldn't handle, and I was a mess, and it lasted for some time. In the end, I learned from the breakup that I was too clingy with my girlfriends. With Sarah, I wasn't so much. I also learned not to be a pushover and to stand up, even to my girlfriends. When Sarah broke up with me, for the first time I was angry rather than sad. This is possibly down to the circumstances in which it happened but, finally, I wasn't spending all my days miserable. I moved on. So, in order, Emma taught me to be able to switch off emotion, Mandy taught me how to better myself in a relationship and Sarah taught me that I am now strong enough to handle a breakup. From now on, I don't go on about how I'll be with a girl forever. I'll just say "I hope so, but if we break up, so be it." It's a good way to be, I've found. I'm happier than ever and in my longest relationship to date with no sign of an end.
- Moving to Scotland instead of going to university. (18 years old) Arguably the biggest decision I've ever made in my life. I think it's very straight forward, though, and needs little explanation.
- Meeting Danielle without Shauna (22 years old) One day I was thinking about how, now that I'm over Sarah and don't have too many people that I talk to on the phone regularly, I should probably meet some of those people in Scotland who always go on about meeting up. So I did - Shauna, Danielle and I arranged to meet up in Glasgow. However, Shauna ended up needing to do something. Danielle and I decided to meet up anyway and had a great time - we just clicked, talked about anything and everything. She was hot (still is 8-)), too. xD But seriously, had Shauna been there, things may have turned out differently as we might not have talked so personally as people tend to do when one-on-one. So thanks Shauna for not being there. xD For those who don't know, I met Shauna later anyway so it's all good. Danielle and I met again a week or two later and, in the end, hooked up. She now lives with me and has done for some time, we're moving along nicely. Oh, and Danielle = smittenkitten for those not in the know.
And that's the changing points in my life. Hope someone enjoys the read, anyway, and if anyone else feels like doing something similar, go for it.